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What Family and Friends Can Do to Help Someone Who is Depressed

What Family and Friends Can Do to Help Someone Who is Depressed:

  • View depression as an illness. It is as real and as painful as heart disease or pneumonia. It is also as treatable.
  • Spend time with the person if he needs it or wants it.
  • Avoid talking only about depression and its symptoms.
  • Talk about other people, the weather, sports, or the news. If the depressed person wants to talk about his depression, allow him to.
  • If you see his views as unrealistically depressed, tell him you disagree with his viewpoint.
  • If the discussion becomes too difficult or persists for too long, change the subject.
  • Ask the depressed person to help with chores that are within his abilities and that will allow him to contribute.
  • Join the depressed person in simple exercise--walking, for example.
  • Allow the depressed person to be alone if he wishes. Only if you believe he is suicidal should you insist that he not be alone.
  • If you feel the depressed person is suicidal, or if he states that he is, ask about it in detail, inquiring about his feelings, his plans, his access to a means for suicide. If you feel there is a risk, contact his therapist and stay with him.
  • Don't respond to irritability with bad temper or arguments. Irritability is part of depression and responds better to a brief withdrawal on your part.
  • Don't expect the depressed person to do too much. Depression is a real and a severe illness. People who are suffering from it cannot be expected to do as much as they can when they're well.
  • Continue with your own life. You'll be in much better shape to help if you stay physically and mentally healthy. Make sure you have time to get away and do things you enjoy.
  • Talk to others who can help you cope--friends, family, clergy, a therapist. Just as depressed people need to talk about feelings, families need to talk about the problems of living with someone who is depressed.
  • Many people find comfort in self-help groups that consist of friends and family members of depressed persons who meet to support and educate one another.

Most communities have a local chapter of the National Depressive and Manic-Depressive Illness support group.

To find out what's available in your community, call your local Mental Health Association or local self-help clearinghouse. Or call the National Self-Help Clearinghouse at 1-212-354-8525.

Don't be surprised or discouraged if there are some setbacks. There'll be good days and bad days in the recovery from depression just as there are in recovery from any other serious illness.


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